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Romantic Depot Bronx NYC
Address: 3703 Provost Ave Bronx NY 10466 United States (718) 515-6969
Hours: Sunday – Thursday 10am – 12:00am
Friday and Saturday 10am – 1:00am
Directions: *From all NYC Boroughs
When driving North on I-95 from NYC take Exit 13. Make left onto Conner
Street. Stay straight, 2 blocks on left after traffic light by
Mcdonald's.
*From Westchester and Connecticut
When driving South on I-95 from Westchester County take Exit 13. Go 1/4 mile - Conner Street Turns into Provost Avenue.
*Bus
Nearest Bus Stop BX 16 BX 36 Boston Post Rd & Conner Street Corner only 1 Block Away!
*Subway
Nearest Transit Station is Only 1.5 Blocks Away, Dyre Avenue take the 5 Train.
Parking Lot and Ample Street Parking is Available.
Romantic Depot Westchester County
Address: 6 Frontage Street Elmsford NY 10523 United States Phone: (914) 345-8522
Hours: Sunday – Thursday 10am – 12:00am
Friday and Saturday 10am – 1am Directions: Minutes from Yonkers, White Plains, Brewster, Ossining and Greenwich, CT.
Located off Route 9a on the NYS Thruway 287 East entrance ramp.
Romantic Depot Rockland County
Address: 301 NY - 59 West Nyack NY 10994 United States (845) 353-0180
Hours: Sunday – Thursday 10am – 12:00am
Friday and Saturday 10am– 1am Directions: Located on Route 59 east directly across from the Palisades Center Mall The entrance is in the rear.
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The
idea that a cisgender woman can strap on a dildo and a harness that
makes her feel like a cowboy and a penetrate another person, no big
deal, basically seems like the epitome of cool to me. But
obviously strap-on sex can be just as awkward as penis-in-vagina
penetrative sex. You could be having a great old time until the dildo
pops out or goes in the wrong hole or you have to switch positions
because it's hitting a spot in her vagina that feels like someone's
stabbing her with a dildo, which isn't ideal.
Jen
Laws, a 30-year-old transgender man and Customer Service Rep for
PerfectFitBrand, has some mixed feelings about strap-on sex. "It can be a
reminder that my body has failed to live up to my personal ideal around
sex," he says, but it's still one of his top three favorite sexual
activities. Strap-ons can be used by straight women to penetrate their
boyfriends (which is called "pegging") or by gay women or trans men to
have penetrative sex their female partners, or by anyone to penetrate
anyone! The penetrative options are endless.
I
spoke with a bunch of women and transgender men who love strap-on
sex to walk me through all the ins and outs of using a dildo. First
things first: Purchase a dildo and a harness.
1. You don't have to choose a dildo that looks like an actual penis. Stephanie
Berman, 34, CEO of POPDildo & The Semenette, says she knows some
lesbians who love dildos that look like penises, but says plenty of
other women like more sculptural dildos. And then there's a third group
that thinks they all look the same in the dark, which is a legit point.
The main thing you need to do is bring your partner dildo shopping so
you can choose one together. Carly S., 28, general manager of Romantic
Depot in NYC, says a good rule of thumb is "the wearer picks the color,
the receiver picks the size." Carly also recommends finding a sex toy
shop that can advise you on toys that are body safe (see also: won't
give you a UTI or yeast infection because some will do that, and it is
the worst. Usually silicone is a safe bet). Plus, a lot of stores
will show you how to put the dildo and the harness together, kind of
like someone at a regular toy store helping you put together a Barbie
dream house, if that Barbie dream house was about to go into someone's
vagina.
2. Yes, it matters if your strap-on equipment is well-made or if it's a piece of garbage you got a good deal on. Berman says
she once wore a strap-on that was really uncomfortable and cheaply
made, and it broke during sex, and I'm guessing no one was psyched to
pick up the sad dildo up the ground that had random hair all over it and
start again by trying to make a new harness out of a sheet. Now she
recommends SpareParts harnesses. "It's worth spending the extra money,"
she says, "Never skimp when it comes to sex and what you put on and in
your body!" Laws avoids the strapless ones (such as the Feeldoe
toy line), which are basically double-ended dildos with one end angled
to be inserted into the active partner. "It basically just uses their
vaginal muscles and nothing else to keep the toy in place," he says.
3.You can totally have different strap-ons for different moods and purposes. Carly has
three different harnesses for different activities. "I have an
underwear-style one that I can wear under my clothes, a leather one if
that's the mood I'm in, and a Joque from SpareParts HardWear harness
that's great in the water."
4. It's really important to manage your expectations about how easy and hot strap-on sex will be. Victoria, host of sex podcast Livin' and Lovin' in NYC, 33,
told me that the fantasy that you'll spontaneously screw and it will go
seamlessly needs to be dismissed ASAP for everyone's sake. The reality
is you'll have to take a break from fooling around to put the harness
on, make sure it's fastened, and get out the lube, which is basically
the opposite of spontaneous sex. In general, all the people I spoke with
said having a sense of humor about all the potential pitfalls and
awkward moments is definitely your best friend (alongside lube...).
5. Lube is your BFF. Every
person I spoke with mentioned lube at least three times, so definitely
do not skimp on the lube situation. Your dildo's material can sometimes
dry out your vagina, so it needs a lot more to help it slip in and out
with ease.
6.It will absolutely be awkward when you first put on the strap-on. Berman
said when she first strapped on a strap-on, it just felt foreign to
wear a penis, especially if you feel weird about your body, or your
gender or sexual identity. In her first lesbian relationship, she was a
bottom because she'd previously been with men and that's what she was
used to, but once she felt more confident with her sexual identity, she
was happy to be both a top and a bottom. That said...
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7. You don't have to just stick with one role of the bottom or the top.
My friend Jessi, 23, said she loves being both the giver and the
receiver of strap-on sex and Victoria echoed similar sentiments. "Many
straight folks might assume that only one person in each sexual
partnership is going to do the drilling, and if one partner is
masculine, the assumption is that it's them," Victoria says. "In my
case, I'm quite androgynous and tend to date feminine-of-center women,
and I love to get drilled. I can't even claim to be that good at doing
the drilling myself." Victoria says when she's had partners who were
inexperienced with strap-ons and she still wanted them to take the reins
in bed, but she told them she didn't expect them to be pros right off
the bat. Bringing that kind of openness and levity to, "Hey, will you
put on a harness and nail me with it even though you've never done that
before and might be terrified of how weird it will be because it will
definitely be a little weird for a bit?" can really make the person
you're asking feel better about it.
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8.It's way more intimate than having someone use a vibrator on you. Strap-on
sex involves really getting to know someone, because you have
to ask what the other person likes in terms of size, shape, and
color (which brings us back to the "some women don't want the dildo to
look anything like a penis at all" point).
9.Strap-on sex is not a "strap on this dildo and get to it" activity. It requires a lot of set-up before and clean-up after. Laws says he hates seeing strap-on sex in porn or on TV (I can personally only think of one scene in The L Word and of course the Broad City
scene with pegging because it's really not seen very often on
TV) because it takes a lot more planning and set-up and clean-up than
they ever show. "Even after a mind-blowing orgasm, the base of a dong is
digging into my pelvis, and that's uncomfortable, and body fluids or
lube are just kind of messy to leave hanging around, so you have to
clean it up," Laws says, "Plus, harnesses always take work to get the
right fit, and things slip and move during sex."
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10. It's not a penis, but use a condom anyway. Victoria
says she recommends using a condom on the dildo for easier clean-up
because that way you won't have to immediately wash all the dried bodily
fluids off the dildo and leave it to dry. Plus, a lot of condoms are
lubricated, which can help with any dryness caused by the dildo
material.
11. You should explore your strap-on in your day-to-day activities because why not. Laws
seriously recommends walking around with the strap-on and stroking it
like you're jerking off, so you can get comfortable with it and "have
fun with it" like it's part of your own body.
12. Giving a strap-on blow job can be totally hot.
Laws told me the best advice he can give is to not overthink it,
whether you're blowing someone or being blown. If you're the one
receiving, once you feel connected to your equipment, you'll see the
dildo as an extension of yourself and there'll be more of a mental
feeling of stimulation that can translate into the physical. If you're
giving, just be enthusiastic no matter what you're doing. Gripping the
base of the dildo and grinding that into your partner's pelvis can help
with clitoral and vulva stimulation. Just pay attention to the way
they're responding, so you know how much or little to keep grinding.
13. Here are all the things that might go wrong with your dildo and O-ring and harness.
Laws says that once you have everything fitting right with your
harness, you still might have issues. Most often, if you're using
multiple dildos in one session or if you're new to strap-ons, you might
find that not all your dildos or O-rings are the same size, and they
need to have a snug fit or the dildo will wiggle out of the O-ring.
Also, your harness snaps might not be up to the challenge of your
vigorous sex-having and could come undone, or your straps could
eventually get worn out if they're elastic. Seams and connection points
can also get weakened over time. Because harnesses aren't cheap, you
probably don't have several in your house just chilling, but even if you
did, there's still the awkward "now I have to take this off and put
another one on and go back to sex like I didn't just leave for 20
minutes" conversation. Laws says he usually doesn't feel like going
right back into strap-on sex if any of those mishaps do happen and just
moves on to something else. So make sure everything fits and is tightly
in place before your boo comes over!
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14. Don't thrust as much as you might be tempted to thrust. Carly says
a lot of women use their hips too much when they thrust, and recommends
trying to keep your hips straight and thrusting lightly, instead
of moving side-to-side.
15. No, you obviously won't have sensation like it's attached to your body, but that doesn't really matter. Laws
says that not having the sensation he'd have if the dildo was an actual
body part is his least favorite thing about strap-on sex, but he still
loves the power-play aspects, whether he's giving or receiving. Justyn
A. Hintze, 27, a sexologist and sexuality educator at the Woodhull
Freedom Foundation, says they've always been frustrated that they
couldn't feel their partner's body reacting physiologically to the
pleasure like they could when they used their hands, but just watching
their partner enjoying it is hot enough for a lot of people.
Romantic Depot Bronx NYC
Address: 3703 Provost Ave Bronx NY 10466 United States (718) 515-6969
Hours: Sunday – Thursday 10am – 12:00am
Friday and Saturday 10am – 1:00am
Directions: *From all NYC Boroughs
When driving North on I-95 from NYC take Exit 13. Make left onto Conner
Street. Stay straight, 2 blocks on left after traffic light by
Mcdonald's.
*From Westchester and Connecticut
When driving South on I-95 from Westchester County take Exit 13. Go 1/4 mile - Conner Street Turns into Provost Avenue.
*Bus
Nearest Bus Stop BX 16 BX 36 Boston Post Rd & Conner Street Corner only 1 Block Away!
*Subway
Nearest Transit Station is Only 1.5 Blocks Away, Dyre Avenue take the 5 Train.
Parking Lot and Ample Street Parking is Available.
Romantic Depot Westchester County
Address: 6 Frontage Street Elmsford NY 10523 United States Phone: (914) 345-8522
Hours: Sunday – Thursday 10am – 12:00am
Friday and Saturday 10am – 1am Directions: Minutes from Yonkers, White Plains, Brewster, Ossining and Greenwich, CT.
Located off Route 9a on the NYS Thruway 287 East entrance ramp.
Romantic Depot Rockland County
Address: 301 NY - 59 West Nyack NY 10994 United States (845) 353-0180
Hours: Sunday – Thursday 10am – 12:00am
Friday and Saturday 10am– 1am
Directions: Located on Route 59 east directly across from the Palisades Center Mall The entrance is in the rear.
